The Heart of Service: A Reflection on Gratitude

In psychology, gratitude refers to a positive emotion that arises when an individual recognizes and appreciates the kindness, help, or generosity of others.

Yet, when discussing gratitude, we rarely consider the true mindset of the one serving.

Yesterday, we had the opportunity to serve with Cristolândia , an outreach program that provides services to individuals struggling with drug addiction who are still actively using. As I watched local missionaries and volunteers serve without partiality, I noticed the joy and passion they received in return.

Later, I had a discussion with my fellow Americans about the difference in their level of service compared to what we often see in the United States. The word gratitude came up, but so did another word: entitlement.

Some shared that when people display entitled behavior while receiving help, they have been told to “just put on their Christian hat and serve,” even though they feel those being served should be grateful. But I wonder—is that really the best advice?

Doesn’t that mindset subtly place us above those we serve?

The True Test of a Servant’s Heart

This conversation reminded me of the recent controversial exchange between the President of Ukraine and the President and Vice President of the United States. Many were outraged that the Ukrainian president—who is leading a nation at war—was expected to express explicit gratitude for the aid given. The expectation of a public display of thanks felt demeaning to some.

But it made me pause and ask: How is what we do any different?

When we serve dinner at a homeless shelter, provide clothing, or participate in community outreach, do we secretly expect an overwhelming outpouring of gratitude? If we do, is our mindset truly different from those demanding public recognition for their generosity?

Watching the Brazilians serve today, I saw the true spirit of Christ in their actions. I believe a mindset shift is needed within the American church.

What If We Were the Ones Who Were Grateful?

What if, instead of expecting gratitude from those we serve, we were the ones overflowing with thankfulness?

• Grateful that we have the opportunity to serve.

• Grateful that God is using us to care for the vulnerable—the people He deeply loves.

• Grateful simply to be chosen for this work.

I believe that in this shift, we would discover the mind of Christ.

Jesus: The Ultimate Example of Humble Service

This reminds me of John 13:1-17, where Jesus humbles Himself to wash the feet of His disciples. He does this with love, sincerity, and gratitude—not expecting anything in return.

Let’s examine what we can learn from His example:

1. Dying to Self (John 13:4)

Before Jesus washed the disciples’ feet, He removed His outer garment. The outer garment represents the part of us that others see—the masks we wear, the image we curate, the pride we hold. To serve like Jesus, we must be willing to strip away our egos and the need for validation.

True service comes from a place of humility, not a desire for praise.

(Matthew 6:5, John 13:16)

2. Serving Without Partiality (John 13:2-5)

Before Jesus knelt to wash their feet, Judas had already decided to betray Him. Yet, Jesus knowingly washed the feet of the one who would hand Him over.

We often want to determine who is “worthy” of our kindness. But service is not about who deserves it—it’s about the condition of our own hearts.

God often uses our service to complete His work in us.

(Philippians 1:6)

3. Obedience Brings Blessing (John 13:15-17)

After washing their feet, Jesus set an expectation:

“I have set you an example that you should do as I have done for you.” (John 13:15)

Then, He gives us a promise:

“Now that you know these things, you will be blessed if you do them.” (John 13:17)

Jesus calls us not only to learn about humility but to practice it. Service with the right heart posture brings blessing—not from human acknowledgment, but from God Himself.

A Call to True Gratitude in Service

So today, reflect on this:

How can you serve those you are called to with a spirit of gratitude?

Jesus didn’t serve expecting recognition—He served because He loved. Let’s follow His example, embracing the privilege of serving others with humility, sincerity, and joy.

Thank you for joining me on this journey through the missions of Brazil. I pray that you are as blessed as I have been.

With love,